Coupled With Christ Ministry

 

Helping husbands and wives learn to do marriage God’s way.  Brother Michael and Sister Theresa McCabe will lead you through what the Bible has to say about marriage and how to do marriage God’s way.

 

   As a society, we have lost our way when it comes to marriage. I believe our culture—Christian culture and American culture—needs to understand better why God created marriage. God makes these purposes clear in Genesis 1.

  “Let us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, the cattle, over all the earth and over all the creeping things that creep on the earth.” So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” (Genesis 1:26-28)

These verses show us God’s four purposes of marriage.

1. To replicate God’s nature and image on the earth.

2. To extend God’s Kingdom authority on the earth.

3. To generationally perpetuate the nature of God and the values of His Kingdom.

4. To multiply God’s human family with righteous offspring.

All of these four reasons reveal why we must fight for this institution that God loves. Marriage is not just another relationship, but a key part of God’s plan. It is the foundation of society and a holy institution that reflects our Creator.

 
 
Couples Corner
 
 

September 2021

Three Big Misconceptions about Marriage.

 
You could do that or you might want to Check this out Many married couples are in need of good news. They love each other but may be discouraged. They are frustrated and fearful. Some have failed in past marriages. Others feel like they are failing now. They don’t know what to do.
God created marriage, and when He creates anything, He creates it for success. He designs it according to the laws of His kingdom and His Word. When you follow these laws, you will find success. One law is from Genesis 2, where God says a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife. The word we translate “cleave” means to pursue with all energy. In other words, marriage requires effort. It’s hard work. A marriage can be great as long as the husband and wife both work at it. There are no exceptions to this. Unfortunately, a lot of people think something is wrong if it requires too much work. This is one of three big misconceptions about marriage.
Misconception #1: Marriage should be effortless. Everyone is looking for their soul mate. Once they find that perfect person, chemistry will strike. They’ll fall deeply in love and live happily ever after. The reality is that there are no perfect people. No one is completely compatible with another person. That’s why I believe soul mates are not born, but made. You become soul mates when you travel through life’s valleys together. You can fall in love and live happily ever after, but it takes effort.
Misconception #2: Emotions never change. The early days of a relationship are filled with love and devotion and warm feelings toward each other. But what if, someday, you wake up and aren’t filled with those warm feelings? If the emotions aren’t there, did you marry the wrong person? The reality is that feelings change. Emotions are unpredictable. You can’t depend on them or control them. What you can control is your will. The greatest kind of love isn’t built on feelings, but on a decision. I love Theresa. That means, regardless of how I feel or what she does, I’ve made a decision to be faithful. If your feelings change toward your spouse, you rely on your will as you work to rediscover those emotions. That leads to one final misconception. Misconception #3: Love can’t be restored. In Revelation 2, God has a message for the church at Ephesus, which has fallen out of love with Him. “You have forsaken the love you had at first. Consider how far you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first.” Emotions may disappear. You may think you’ve fallen out of love. You may think it’s over. But God says it’s never over. He told the Ephesians to remember, repent, and return to the actions that characterized the start of the relationship. Remember when you fell in love? Remember how you listened to each other, how you cared for each other, how considerate you were? Remember how every thought was about each other? Return to that. Pursue each other like you did when you began dating. Put in the effort. That’s how you fall in love again. That’s how love gets restored. Marriage isn’t easy, but success is always possible when you work hard and trust God’s plan. Get these misconceptions out of your mind and remember this: He created marriage, and He didn’t create it to fail.

August 2021

 

Make a Commitment to Have Fun Together

 
The happiest and most committed married couples make it a point to have fun together. We try to make this a point in our marriage. “Laughter is the soundtrack of a healthy and happy home.” Isn’t that so true? The more we laugh together, the more connected we feel, and the more likely we are to open up to one another. On the flip side, the absence of fun and laughter causes couples to stop talking, and their hearts become disconnected and disillusioned. Thankfully, husbands and wives have the power to change this negative dynamic, but it requires both spouses being intentional about spending time with one another and making fun and laughter a daily habit in their relationship.
One way is to make it a point to have fun together by having a regular date night. Date nights are great opportunities for couples to focus on their relationship and have a blast together. Not long ago, I came across the sweetest ABC News story about a young Canadian couple, Zac and Emily Rendell, who liven up their date nights like no one else. They make it their mission to surprise one another with outrageous, fun-themed date nights every month. According to Emily, the couple takes turns planning their monthly surprise date nights. “We try to outdo each other,” says Emily. And, man, does this couple know how to take date nights and FUN to a whole new level. Recently, Zac decided that he wanted to surprise Emily with a Beauty and the Beast date night-down to the smallest details. He even went to a thrift store, purchased an old clock in a glass enclosure, removed the clock, and added a twinkling rose inside- just like the one in the movie. Isn’t that amazing? But, he didn’t stop there. The night continued with a candlelit dinner fit with china and cloches. So romantic! Emily loved every minute of it. However, she wasn’t sure how she’d be able to top such an amazing date night. But, she knew she had to try.
So, Emily put together something she just knew that her husband would love- the most amazing Star Wars-themed date night ever. From mini light sabers to whimsical credits lining the bottom of steps leading to their upstairs, to an “Admiral Ackbar Snackbar,” the night was epic. When asked why they put so much effort into their special surprise date night, the couple stated that their favorite wedding advice is to “never stop dating each other.” Well, they’ve sure lived up to that one!
So, what about you? How can you increase the fun and laughter in your marriage? Here are a few more questions to consider to get you thinking…
What are some of your spouse’s favorite things, and how can you make those come to life in a fun experience that the two of you can do together?
What makes your spouse laugh? A certain comedian, TV program, podcast, etc.? Take them to that comedy show. Watch their favorite funny flick with them. Listen to their favorite podcast with them and laugh together.
Do you ever send funny texts/emails/messages to your spouse? If not, start doing it! Use funny GIFs. Remember your inside jokes with one another. Flirt back and forth with your spouse and have fun with it.
Whether it’s an elaborately-planned date night or a silly joke, your marriage will grow stronger when the two of you make laughter and fun a consistent part of your marriage. So, go for it. Plan something fun right now. You will be so glad you did!

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