Coupled With Christ Ministry

 

Helping husbands and wives learn to do marriage God’s way.  Brother Michael and Sister Theresa McCabe will lead you through what the Bible has to say about marriage and how to do marriage God’s way.

 

As a society, we have lost our way when it comes to marriage. I believe our culture—Christian culture and American culture—needs to understand better why God created marriage. God makes these purposes clear in Genesis 1.

 

“Let us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, the cattle, over all the earth and over all the creeping things that creep on the earth.” So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” (Genesis 1:26-28)

 

These verses show us God’s four purposes of marriage.

 

1. To replicate God’s nature and image on the earth.

2. To extend God’s Kingdom authority on the earth.

3. To generationally perpetuate the nature of God and the values of His Kingdom.

4. To multiply God’s human family with righteous offspring.

 

All of these four reasons reveal why we must fight for this institution that God loves. Marriage is not just another relationship, but a key part of God’s plan. It is the foundation of society and a holy institution that reflects our Creator.

Join us every week as we explore these topics.

1. To replicate God’s nature and image on the earth. The Hebrew word we translate “God” in these verses is Elohim, which is a plural word. It means more than one, and reflects the reality of the Trinity: Father, Son and Holy Spirit, three in one.

In God’s creation of a marriage between a man and a woman, as we’ve discussed previously, the husband plays a Christlike role and the wife plays a role similar to the Holy Spirit. Then God places Himself in the center of that marriage. Again, three in one. Christian marriage reflects the Trinity.

That’s why the devil hates marriage. He wants to destroy it because it looks like God. God is in the center of marriage and it’s a sacred institution.

 
2. To extend God’s Kingdom authority on the earth. After creating Adam and Eve, God said, “Let them have dominion.” They were to govern the world around them. God’s plan was not for humans to rely on government, but for Him to rule over each family and for families to govern themselves.

 

All of us have been disappointed by the government. The answer to this is not a bigger government or a better government. The answer is strong families. God’s will is for every couple and every family, under God’s authority, to rule themselves. A strong marriage is at the center of this.

 
 

3. To generationally perpetuate the nature of God and the values of His Kingdom. If marriage reflects the Trinity, then a healthy marriage makes us act like God and look more like God. It requires sacrifice (marriage is brutal on selfish people). It requires commitment. It requires selfless service. It requires cooperation, faithfulness and generosity.

These are godly characteristics and they are the reason He commands us to “be fruitful and multiply.” When parents show these qualities, they are modeling godly characteristics for their children. Children are seeing the image of God. While children grow up to love their parents, they also learn to love God because He is reflected in Mom and Dad’s marriage.


 

How to Transform Your Marriage with a

Vision Retreat

 

 

Set aside time each year to seek God for your marriage.

Setting aside time to seek God for your marriage will transform your life, your relationship with each other, and your relationship with God. Here are a few rules for a productive vision retreat.

  1. No kids.

 ‍           If you take your kids, it’s not a retreat. Leave them with your parents or a trusted friend or family member. Get away alone, together.

  1. Aim for three to five days.‍

            You need to allow yourself enough time to relax, get your heart right, and connect with your spouse.

  1. Do it at least once a year.

            If you’re fighting regularly or have major life changes on the horizon, you might need to do it more than once a year. If you find yourselves nagging each                    other or arguing, it’s time for a vision retreat. We fight because there’s something unresolved between us. A vision retreat can help us resolve it.

  1. It can be anywhere.

            If you want to go camping and are comfortable doing that, then set up a tent out in the woods. If you’d rather go to a fancy resort, then do that. As long as              it’s a place where you’re not too distracted to seek God.

  1. Schedule each day.

            For half the day, you pray and talk. The other half of the day, you have fun.  I suggest spending your mornings in conversation, then spend the rest of the                  day enjoying yourselves.

  1. Talk about the big issues.‍

            I suggest discussing your kids, your schedules, money and your sex life. Those are big issues. Those are the things that kept you aggravated with each                    other. Whatever issues cause the most tension in your marriage. That’s what you need to discuss.

  1. Don’t be afraid to fight.‍

            When you bring something out in the open that has been unresolved in your marriage, it’s going to lead to some hard conversations. Some couples are                      uncomfortable with the idea of a vision retreat because they don’t like conflict. But would you rather have two days of hard conversations, or 15 years of a              chronic, unresolved problem in your marriage?

  1. Surrender your marriage to God.‍

            This is the most important thing. A vision retreat isn’t two strong-willed people butting heads on an issue, but two submitted people trying to find God. Say,              “God, we want what you want. We surrender our marriage to you.”

  1. Finally, listen.‍

            Don’t bully. Don’t dominate. Listen to your spouse share his or her heart. Spend time in prayer. Sit together in God’s presence until you hear from Him. I                    firmly believe He will give you a vision for your marriage if you’ll just listen.

After that, you’ll return to the “real world” and pursue that vision. 

 

Have you ever gone on a vision retreat with your spouse? If not, then I hope this year is the year you do it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Join us the last Thursday of every month for our couples virtual Bible Study. 

 

 

 

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