Coupled With Christ Ministry

 

Helping husbands and wives learn to do marriage God’s way.  Brother Michael and Sister Theresa McCabe will lead you through what the Bible has to say about marriage and how to do marriage God’s way.

 

   As a society, we have lost our way when it comes to marriage. I believe our culture—Christian culture and American culture—needs to understand better why God created marriage. God makes these purposes clear in Genesis 1.

  “Let us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, the cattle, over all the earth and over all the creeping things that creep on the earth.” So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” (Genesis 1:26-28)

These verses show us God’s four purposes of marriage.

1. To replicate God’s nature and image on the earth.

2. To extend God’s Kingdom authority on the earth.

3. To generationally perpetuate the nature of God and the values of His Kingdom.

4. To multiply God’s human family with righteous offspring.

All of these four reasons reveal why we must fight for this institution that God loves. Marriage is not just another relationship, but a key part of God’s plan. It is the foundation of society and a holy institution that reflects our Creator.

 
 
Couples Corner
 
 

June 2021

The Secret to Ultimate Intimacy in Marriage

 
  Everyone enters a marriage relationship thinking about sex. And that’s not wrong—sex is an experience uniquely designed for marriage. Most of the things we do in life we can do with anyone, but sex is reserved for marriage. It’s special. Why is this?

First, it’s because God intended for our own sexual needs to be met within the marriage relationship. See Genesis 1:27-28

  Second, A Godly sexual relationship requires consent. We give ourselves to each other. Because of this, sex is a sacrificial act between a husband and wife. It depends upon a serving spirit, which means the best sex in marriage is one person serving the other. That attitude is the secret of success within marriage.

  Nothing else can guarantee sexual fulfillment. For instance, sexual chemistry will come and go. There will be physically good times and some physically not so good times. Stress can take a toll on the physical body and thus physical intimacy. You can’t count on chemistry, but you can count on commitment. If I am committed to serving my wife every day of my life, then hormones or stress don’t matter. What matters is that my spouse has a sexual desire, and I love her, and I have chosen to serve her.

  Sometimes fear can keep a husband and wife from serving each other sexually. Common fears can be failing, or being taken advantage of. That’s what I thought about when I was failing at being a good husband. I thought if I showed her weakness or vulnerability, she would take advantage of it. I feared the consequences of serving her.

  I refused to serve because I was insecure. But think back to when Jesus washed the feet of the disciples at the Last Supper. He was about to die. Meanwhile, the disciples were arguing about which one of them was the greatest. Jesus knelt down, removed their sandals, and told them the servant was the greatest of all. When Jesus began washing Peter’s feet and Peter objected, Jesus rebuked him for his attitude. That’s significant. Even as a servant, Jesus did not lose his power or position of authority. He was not making Himself into a doormat. He served from a place of security, not vulnerability.

  Serving your spouse doesn’t mean setting yourself up for abuse. It doesn’t diminish the equality of your marriage. It doesn’t mean you always have to agree, either. It just means you are choosing to meet each other’s needs and desires.

  Within marriage, servanthood is the only spirit that experiences true emotional, spiritual, or sexual intimacy. You simply can’t be intimate with a selfish person. God created sex. He loves to see his people enjoying the special gift He created. He wants us to enjoy sex – not in sinful ways, but in ways that give each other pleasure.

  That means men and women both need to be sensitive to serving each other sexually. Our bodies belong to our spouse. See 1 Corinthians 7:1-5. This is not a license to abuse. It is a fact of the marriage union, two becoming one (Genesis 2:24). We never withdraw our bodies from each other. We don’t use our bodies as a weapon or a bargaining chip. We don’t use sex to punish. Sexual fulfillment in marriage means saying to our spouse, “This is your body, and I will serve you with this body for the rest of our marriage.” That is a very, very powerful thing.

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