Coupled With Christ Ministry

 

Helping husbands and wives learn to do marriage God’s way.  Brother Michael and Sister Theresa McCabe will lead you through what the Bible has to say about marriage and how to do marriage God’s way.

 

   As a society, we have lost our way when it comes to marriage. I believe our culture—Christian culture and American culture—needs to understand better why God created marriage. God makes these purposes clear in Genesis 1.

  “Let us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, the cattle, over all the earth and over all the creeping things that creep on the earth.” So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” (Genesis 1:26-28)

These verses show us God’s four purposes of marriage.

1. To replicate God’s nature and image on the earth.

2. To extend God’s Kingdom authority on the earth.

3. To generationally perpetuate the nature of God and the values of His Kingdom.

4. To multiply God’s human family with righteous offspring.

All of these four reasons reveal why we must fight for this institution that God loves. Marriage is not just another relationship, but a key part of God’s plan. It is the foundation of society and a holy institution that reflects our Creator.

 
 
Couples Corner
 
 

December 2021

Friendship Is The Foundation of Any Healthy Relationship.

 
 
Friendship is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Before anything romantic occurs, friendship needs to be present. Friendship means you like being together—you would prefer to be with your spouse above anyone else.
I believe there are seven steps to becoming best friends with your spouse:
 
1. Be faithful. During hard times, a friendship will either be lost altogether or will come out stronger. There was a point during the darkest days of our marriage where we weren’t friends anymore. That’s when God showed me I needed to be more faithful to my friend.
You can’t just be your spouse’s friend when it’s convenient. Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times.”
 
2. Believe in each other. One of the reasons God created marriage is to bring husbands and wives to their full potential. You’ll never be close friends with someone who doesn’t believe in you.
As spouses, we have to foster an environment where our husband or wife can thrive. God created your spouse for something special, and your job is to help cultivate whatever that is. One day we will stand before Jesus and account for all we’ve done for our spouse. Have you brought him or her to their full potential?
 
3. Embrace each other’s differences. How many friends do you have who criticize you all the time or reject the ways you are different? Friends who don’t seem to like who you are can hardly be described as friends.
God created us to complete each other. He made us compatible. Compatibility is based on character and values, not on being identical to each other. You and your spouse may be very different. Instead of rejecting your differences, celebrate them!
 
4. Be real and transparent. Honesty is crucial to friendship. Does your spouse know your heart? Does he or she know what you’re thinking, what you love, what you believe? If not, it’s time to let them into your world. Isolating yourself from your spouse makes intimacy impossible.
 
5. Be a safe place. Who do you call when something great happens? Who do you go to first when something terrible happens? You go to the person you trust the most. As a married couple, you need to be each other’s refuge—the place each of you go to celebrate good news or find strength to face bad news.
 
6. Be fun and creative. The strongest marriages I’ve seen are the ones where a husband and wife still have fun together. If this ever stops—if a couple no longer enjoys each other’s company—then hard times are likely in store. If one of you enjoys golf, then play golf together. If it’s fishing or hunting, then do that together. If one spouse likes shopping, go shopping together. Whatever it is, do it together.
 
7. Bear each other’s burdens. If you’ve ever tried to carry a couch by yourself, you know how important it is to have someone share the load. Galatians 6:2 says “Bear one another’s burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ.” That is what friends do. Offer to help. Be a support. Never sit back while your spouse deals with hardship.
You need to be friends with your spouse. If friendship didn’t develop early in your relationship, there’s still time to cultivate it. Decide “We’re going to be friends again,” then work at it. Take the steps above to make sure it happens
 
Jimmy Evans

November 2021

8 Ways To Show  your  wife  Respect.

 
There’s been a lot of recent discussion about how “men need respect” and “women need love.” This view has gained more attention with the popular book, Love and Respect, by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. It’s a wonderful book and I wholeheartedly recommend it, but some people have missed the point of his book (and my previous post on 7 ways a husband needs respect from his wife) by thinking that men only need respect (not love) and women only need love (not respect).
Aretha Franklin belted the classic “R-E-S-P-E-C-T” and women worldwide sang along. The truth is that both men and women need respect (and love), but that need is manifested in different ways.
I’ve received some great insight from my amazing wife, and countless women. Based on these interviews, my own observations and Biblical principles, I’m convinced that the list below sums up the primary ways a wife needs and desires respect from her husband.
Each marriage is unique (because each person is unique), so this list may not represent all people. The point of this devotional isn’t to squeeze everyone into the same mold, but rather, to stir up some meaningful dialogue between husbands and wives which will ultimately lead to stronger marriages.
 
8 ways a wife needs respect from her husband (in no particular order):
 
1. Have eyes only for her.
 A man shows respect for his wife by never making her feel compared to an airbrushed supermodel or a random woman passing by. Men make their wives feel safe, adored and respected when their eyes are “monogamous.”
 
2. Support and encourage her dreams.
 A man shows respect for his wife when her dreams become his priority. In little things in big things, men should encourage and support their wives to achieve their hopes and dreams.
 
3. Work hard to provide for the family.
 When a man works hard, it communicates respect to his wife. A lazy man is incapable of communicating true respect to his wife (or anyone else).
 
4. Help out around the house.
 Each household is different, but in the homes where the wife manages the domestic duties, the husband should still be willing to jump in and help out. Doing the dishes or folding laundry is a simple way to show respect to your wife.
 
5. Engage in conversation with her and listen when she is talking.
 I believe the typical wife’s need for communication is every bit as strong as the typical husband’s need for sex. A husband shows respect to his wife when he turns off his phone, turns of the TV and engages in meaningful conversation and he ALWAYS tells her the truth. Dishonesty is the ultimate form of disrespect.
 
6. Make time with your wife a priority.
 A man shows respect for his wife when he makes her a consistent priority on his calendar. A husband should give his best energies to his wife; not his leftovers after he has given his best to hobbies, career or other pursuits.
 
7. Continuously pursues her.
 Most guys are great at pursuing during the dating phase of the relationship, but we get lazy, inconsistent and unromantic in marriage. We show our love and respect to our wives when we continuously give them the best of ourselves and keep growing better with every season of life together.
 
8. Never give up on her!
 Love means believing in someone even when they struggle to believe in themselves. Do this for your wife. Bring out the best in her. Build her up through your words, your actions and your respect. Let her know that your commitment to her and your love for her is unconditional and unshakeable. That will give her the confidence to take on the world knowing you always have her back!

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